Be very take charge, sexually. For some people it makes things more arousing to be very take charge. Other people get exited to be the one being ordered around. The terms are sometimes called dominate and submissive, or dom and sub.
Okay. My thing is like... I like doing what the other person wants me to
do. It's just amazing to be the fulfillment of someone's fantasy. So if my
partner wants to be dominated I can do that. If they want to boss me
around? I'm all about that too.
You can ask them. Either flat out or in the heat of the moment. You can start prompting them to tell you their fantasies, tell them you'll do anything. That sort of stuff.
But I am pretty good at figuring that stuff out as we go.
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Re: Audio
Date: 2018-08-22 03:43 am (UTC)Re: Audio
Date: 2018-08-27 01:29 am (UTC)Re: Audio
Date: 2018-08-30 04:54 am (UTC)...I'm not sure I'd like being ordered around.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-03 09:30 pm (UTC)I get that. What about being the one that bosses people around?
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-05 12:13 am (UTC)...Maybe?
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-05 02:42 am (UTC)[Okay, that was absolutely adorable.]
It can be really fun! And there are different ways to do it too.
You can be stern and bossy, all sharp and commanding. But you can also do it sweetly.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-08 10:47 pm (UTC)Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-10 03:29 am (UTC)Yes! Honestly...
Okay. My thing is like... I like doing what the other person wants me to do. It's just amazing to be the fulfillment of someone's fantasy. So if my partner wants to be dominated I can do that. If they want to boss me around? I'm all about that too.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-12 09:57 pm (UTC)So...do they just...tell you what they like? Or do you have to guess?
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-13 04:36 am (UTC)But I am pretty good at figuring that stuff out as we go.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-13 07:27 pm (UTC)But this is all very good advice, thank you so much, Eve.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-17 01:20 am (UTC)It's mostly ego and vanity but confidence definitely sounds better.
Of course! Anything you need, about this subject or anything else, just ask.
Re: Audio
Date: 2018-09-17 02:22 am (UTC)